On our anniversary's eve we decided to squeeze in dinner, and really enjoyed our date to Pita Jungle in Chandler. We've been before and blogged about it even, but we haven't been to this location together in a few years. It sits on a lake and they have Christmas lights all over the patio- it's quite romantic! We kept commenting how everyone seemed to be a date and seemed to be having a really fantastic time together! That's not the norm, we know, we're people watchers. You know the scene from Date Night where they ask "What's Their Story?" We laughed so hard we cried when we saw this, because guess what, we do the same thing.
Anyway, we loved watching everyone around us cuddly, engaged in conversations, and seeming so happy! It was great inspiration! Isn't it amazing what an atmosphere can do for people?
We probably looked like the awkward couple, but we promise- it was with good reason!
Remember this post about 10 questions to ask on your first anniversary? We printed two copies, and accidentally brought only one pen, and took turns filling in answers and people watching.
And guess what, we're going to open up our personal life to you and share our answers. Before let's just say we learned who the funny one is (Jacob), who writes faster and can barely read their own writing (Camille), and had some trips down memory lane of moments good and bad.
We know we only post our great experiences on dates, but our lives are far from perfect as you'll see soon. We should mention that there are lots of funny stories about waking up Jacob early and some of the funny comments he makes as he is the antithesis of a morning person. Camille has some endocrine problems that cause blood sugar issues, but seems to forget that at least bi-weekly, we are major deal hunters and have to talk each other into spending money or buying things when convenient since we resent paying full price for almost anything, and Jacob purchased a fantastic bachelor pad to use as a rental for his house that we've worked hard to make ours and have grown to love. We've realized, it's not our ideal house as newlyweds and although we're grateful to have it, we both wish we had some things and could ditch some things we don't have.
We both also learned this was one of the sweeter, more romantic moments we've had together as we read each other our answers.
So without further adieu, here are the questions and our answers!
Groupon- cheap, fun, easy, local dates- every week!
Work struggles and changes, remodeling our house, and date nights!
Christmas, getting 12 months of dates from CAMILLE, and going on a quick trip to Vegas
She Said:I can’t choose one! I loved our entire honeymoon, the night we stayed up late cuddling and watching “The Holiday” until 2:00 am, and the day I graduated and Jacob made a big “Proud of my MBA Wife” sign that he wasn’t able to take to the arena, but had on the car when we walked out. It was adorable!
Camille forgetting her makeup on our honeymoon, walking a few miles to Kohl’s and then having the cab take us to Walgreen's. (The minimum was still purchased)
My Mom put my dress for the luncheon in an area I didn't know about. I spent an hour looking for it, and stressed having to wear my fancy wedding dress to our more casual luncheon. I found it, but really, it would have been funny to show up all formal to that in retrospect.
How important together time is. I hate when we are apart for very long. Who knew you could become so dependent so fast!
I thought I’d have some serious trust issues after past relationships, but I haven’t had any! Jacob is so trustworthy! I also had no clue I could be this HAPPY!
Even when she says she isn't hungry, but hasn’t eaten anything, make her eat a hamburger. Joe’s Farm Grill will do the trick.
How grumpy he is in the morning. He’s Mr. Sweet 23.5/7 but it’s amazing how grumpy he is for about 30 minutes right after he wakes up. It’s actually pretty funny! Most people have to see it to believe it!
What kind of entrepreneurial spirit she has. She’s begun the process of starting her own business, and created fantastic blogs.
How constant he is! Seriously ALWAYS patient, sweet (minus the wake up time J), giving, non-judgmental, serving, etc. Nothing seems to alter his good nature- even lack of food or sleep deprivation. He is ALWAYS rock solid!
I’d buy a smaller house, on a hill, with an amazing security system and running trails nearby where all the neighbors know our names and love barbecuing as much or more than we do.
Communicate better. Sometimes I bottle up negative feelings so I’m not a “downer” but I’ve learned it’s important to share even the bad feelings in life more freely so the other person doesn't make assumptions or worry.
I’ve discovered Adele, and how important thoughtful small gifts can be…Valentine’s Day CD… HELLO! J
How much I can do to make him happy/upset/etc. It’s amazing the impact you can have to make your spouse’s life better or worse. If I have a bad day, it hurts him too. If I leave a mushy note it seems to make his whole day. It’s amazing how we are connected and I have realized I always need to put him first and work hard to make him happy since I have the greatest impact on that!
I never knew a person could have THIS much LOVE for another person. Seriously, has my heart ALWAYS been this big???
I respect Jacob more and more everyday! He’s so amazing and has the best attitude! I didn’t think I could love him more or think more highly of him, but I do! It's amazing how true that cliche is!
(We know this will SHOCK everyone)
DATE! Set aside 1 night a week where nothing interferes. Budget, big or small, but do it! EVERY WEEK!
Date every week! No matter what! If you don’t think you have time or money consider the expense of divorce or the long term impact of not having the special moments and memories together. You can do it! We managed while I was working full-time, going to grad school full-time, and planning a wedding. They were sometimes short and sweet, but they happened and are treasured memories! The opportunity cost of not having some special time together is just too great.
Also be intentional about your marriage- have quality listening time for a few minutes every day with eye contact, hugs, and loving words- EVERY SINGLE DAY!